So, today my dad is here to help my husband work on the back splash in the kitchen. I have to be honest in saying that my husband doesn't really "click" with my dad and I can feel the tension...I don't know what it is and I know it's not my dad. Ever since the baby was born and my parents came to help out (which was my request and I truly appreciated it) my husband was totally distant and cold towards them. I can't put my finger on what the problem is and I dare not ask. I hate feeling almost embarrassed by my husbands attitude towards them at times. I don't push for my mom or dad to come and visit us unless they really want to, or my husband invites them (like Christmas and other special holidays). It's sad and I feel like crying every time I think of it, but it's almost better this way because if I try to push it, things almost always go horribly wrong.
So far so good. I mean, there are times when I think my husband talks down to my dad and it's hard for me to see my dad not stick up to him...He's so patient and I love my dad for knowing what's going on, but taking it and avoiding conflict. My mom and dad aren't getting along well at home either. After my brother came back to the picture and brought all these problems with him, my parents have had to put their retirement life on hold and "babysit" my older brother. It hasn't been good on their marriage and my mom can be extremely hard on my dad. I can see it and I was glad to be able to talk to my dad alone yesterday and tell him how much I noticed his patience on the matter. My dad puts up with a lot and he really doesn't have anyone to talk to about how hard it is for him.
I love my dad more and more as I get older. I understand his sacrifices and I can see just how hard things are for him, but he never complains.
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